The Baker's Secret...Nasty People Go On The "No Cake For You" List

Everyone knows one. A person who is so nasty, entitled, and demanding they treat other people like dirt and expect to be thanked for it.

I used to work in a department store, and there were a couple of customers who we HATED. When they came in, every salesperson would suddenly want to take their break. Since I was the manager I'd inevitably have to deal with these two jerks because they always had something to complain about.

My finest moment at that store was right after I had turned in my notice. One of the customers came in and started with me. I told him that since we never seemed to be able to make him happy, he should go shop somewhere else from now on. He called me a censored name and said that he was going to turn me in. I said have at it, pal, I already quit. (The best part of this was that I had been chatting with the personnel director when Mr. Jerko came up to harass me, so I had a witness who saw how "delightful" the "gentleman" was.)

This guy thought that since he was the customer, and I worked for the store who wanted his business, he had the upper hand and could be as nasty as he wanted. Little did he know that mentally, I did not work for the store anymore, so my perspective had changed. I did not want his business and the aggravation it would guarantee, and I wasn't afraid to tell him that.

Sometimes people are afraid to turn down jobs for fear of not having enough business booked. This is pretty common for new businesses, but I still hear of established businesses who take any job even though they complain about the client's attitude. For your own mental health and stress level, you need to change your perspective on that.

I've heard of vendors in many different types of wedding businesses who just refused to accept contracts from nasty bridezillas. One photographer even put in her contract that if the bride started acting crazy she could cancel her contract! Those people have figured out that it's far happier to not deal with nasty people. Nobody wants to work with a pill.

And yes, this goes both ways. If you're nasty to a client, of course they're not going to hire you! I've had brides tell me some rude things that other vendors have told brides...One said that when she told the baker that she had 300 guests but only needed a small cake, the baker said "Well then why are you here?" What? Rude.

I'll say that I've been really lucky and have never been hired by a Bridezilla, and I'm going to go knock on some wood right now.

Okay, I'm back. So even though I've been pretty lucky so far, I do hear stories of people who have had to fire a client, or who have suddenly become booked for their date after talking to them for any length of time. (Strangely, a lot of these stories center around cakes for 1st birthdays. Luckily, I don't do many of those.)

Today I was talking to one of my cake friends, and she said that she had an appointment with a client who started in on a racist rant during their meeting. Well, I think that I'd be busy on their date if that happened. Racists don't deserve good cake, they deserve to get something nasty from the grocery store. Preferably something stale.

I've also heard of clients who had so many demands before they even sent a deposit or had a tasting, there's no way to know what they would do once they did hire you. I can tell the difference between a nervous bride and a rude one, so that kind of thing is easy to deal with. Nervous is fine and can be calmed down if you help the bride to understand the process and what you'll do to help make her wedding go smoothly. Rude can't be calmed down, it just exists.

Super nasty clients come along so rarely, it's not a concern most of the time. If your psycho radar goes off during the initial phone call or an appointment, though, be careful. Don't be afraid to set limits.

If someone is rude, abusive, or disrepectful of your time, that isn't someone who you want to work with. (And like I said before, it goes both ways. Brides shouldn't work with a vendor who is rude to them.) Don't be afraid to draw that red X through their date and take a day off. I guarantee that doing that will be far more relaxing than dealing with one of those people from Bridezillas.

How do you handle nasty clients? Do you refuse to take their business or do you just grit your teeth and deal with it? Let me know in the comments below.  (No client names please!)

 Kara Buntin owns A Cake To Remember LLC in Richmond VA, and cake supplies online at and

Popular Posts